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#23808

OMG: Met a few new people a few days ago and we started talking. The convo then turned to past relationships and dates. While my new friends are talking about their ex's and dates I'm just sitting there. WIth 0 dates under my belts, I've never even got my 1st kiss, while they have gone all the way with several people before. It just makes me feel so bad.. 4th year now, with nothing under my belt, at all :S

Am I the only one here like this :(?

6 comments

  1. Nope. Not by a long shot. It doesn't help that many of the people who are sexually active are more inclined to be vocal and brag about it, so it actually magnifies the divide you're seeing.

    I'm a grad student now and I'm still in the same situation as you are -- well, aside a couple of "meet up for coffee" type quasi-dates that haven't ended up going anywhere. The way I was raised I basically don't even know how to do anything other than hit the books and work, and the lack of social skills means I'm at a loss when society expects that I, based solely on my gender, take all the initiative in a relationship. Even now that I'm trying to get "out of my shell" more, every person I'm attracted to turns out to be either (a) not interested or (b) not single.

    At least keep looking and always be attentive for when the right person comes along, but don't go holding out for perfection, because nobody lives up to lofty idealized standards. Go get involved in things that let you meet people with some shared interests that you can build from. Practical advice beyond that, though, I can't help you.

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  2. Just download tinder dude go on a few dates it'll build your confidence

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  3. im in a relationship currently, and i struggle with low-self-esteem. I've been in plenty of relationships and I've regretted most of it. Your not missing out on much.

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  4. I know you're telling the truth because you treat dates like accomplishments. I remember feeling the same way. Dates are just hang-outs one on one. No need to think of it as a challenge, just have a good time. If you're not right for each other then pretending otherwise is a waste of time. If you ARE right for each other then pretty much nothing else matters.

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  5. I know I'm hot here: You sound pretty chill. That's my favourite part about datez. The stroll home can be quite scary though. sweet.

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  6. Fuck 'em and chuck 'em. It's all about the trophies.

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