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Updated on Tuesday, July 19

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OMG: Ive been dating this man for 2 years now and we are really getting to know e.o very well. He's someone that I can see myself with in the future- studious, polite, well groomed, passionate, talented, beautiful and most of all, he is driven. The problem: my mother.

My mother and I have been together since the day I was born. There is no father in the picture. The relationship with my mother means the world to me, however once I came out to her as being gay, our conversations are short and she does not talk to me like before. I still love her, she's my mother. I have so much respect for her and would love to introduce my boyfriend to her the same way that I have met his parents.
I thought that getting good coop jobs with high paying wages, writing my GRE, getting great grades, receiving scholarships would make my mother overlook the fact that her son is gay, but that is the only thing she thinks about. Ive never posted on this site, but I'm hoping someone will at least give me some advice. Homophobia will follow... I'm use to it. Thank you 

16 comments

  1. >There is no father in the picture
    that explains a lot

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  2. Go to the movies together.

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  3. You're not going to be able to logic your way through her close-mindedness. Either she loves you as you are or not at all - Person with no experience with similar situations, just an opinion

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  4. Take her to the bar and get her laid.

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  5. Fucking assholes in here. Ok, some real advice. My brother is gay and my best friend is gay. My brother's boyfriend's parents and my friend's mo. We're both very agaisnt it at the onset of their realization that their sons were gay. In both those cases, time has shifted perceptions and both are considerably more ok with it, although I can't say 100%. Maybe 80. This is a small sample set, but if your mom loves you she may come along in time, albeit very slowly. Hope it all works out for you bro.

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  6. Hugs to you OP. You're already achieving so much despite what you've been through. Keep doing you, and don't be ashamed of who you are. Your mom will come around eventually. :)

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  7. clearly, yo mama jks are inappropriated.

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  8. What? You thought your mom would be impressed with soft ass shit like you paying for co-op and getting scholarships because you're most likely an immigrant? Real world. Wake the fuck up! Stop trying to impress her with this pseudo university lifestyle bullshit and do your own thing. Tell her it's your fucking life, she can accept you wanting some man ass, or she can keep it to herself. If she's religious that's her problem. Go with God, or Jesus, or whoever they think gives two shits about their spirituality. Your life, live it how the fuck you want. Don't try to cater to those who think they're above you, don't think you're below anyone else. Fuck em.

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    1. wew nihilism is so cool bro

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    2. ^go cry about it to your support group snowflake.

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    3. Yea, you sound real happy, I'll take your advice. kek

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    4. "pseudo university lifestyle bullshit"? Use words you understand, tough guy.

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  9. People suck. Here is some genuine advice:

    If she just found out recently, give it some time. My sister came out this year and everyone was supportive in the end, it just tends to be the only thing people think about for awhile since its "big news" that "changes everything" about someone you "thought you knew" their whole lives... soon she will realize that it's really not a big deal and that it changes nothing and that you are still the exact same person, but happier because you can finally be all of you and not hide a part of yourself.

    And if she never comes around, that's too fucking bad because you are who you are and you shouldn't have to deny who you are to her or yourself or anyone. This is 2016, people will get over their own issues in the end, and if they don't it's their loss... they will forever be remembered for being on the wrong side of history. Much love.

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  10. juliet here: I went to pride This year and saw drag queens. These transgender people sure are hot. It was nice celebrating this special day with my bf.

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