this is a real thing. most of my first three years here I was single (some short relationships but nothing that lasted) but now that i've been with my s/o for almost a year now, I can honestly say that having that rock in your life really helps.
Without a girlfriend/boyfriend: - Aching for someone to hold and hold you in return - Someone to listen to and share your inner feelings with - Lie in bed at night wondering what it would be like
With a girlfriend/boyfriend: - Filtering everything you send to them to make sure it's as witty/funny/smart as possible - What did that look mean? Is it something I did? - Am I really attractive to them? Why don't they say things like this used to? - Lie in bed at night wondering if they care about you the way you care for them
Solution: - Improve yourself until you have something to build confidence on - Derive your own sense of achievement from the things you accomplish - Don't allow your self-value to depend on how another person feels about you
Lastly: - How you make people feel is more important than what they think of you - Pretending to be someone you're not can get you into a relationship, but it will quickly spiral out into chaos before you have a chance to appreciate it - People with expectations you can't achieve aren't worth pursuing
this is a real thing. most of my first three years here I was single (some short relationships but nothing that lasted) but now that i've been with my s/o for almost a year now, I can honestly say that having that rock in your life really helps.
ReplyDeleteWithout a girlfriend/boyfriend:
ReplyDelete- Aching for someone to hold and hold you in return
- Someone to listen to and share your inner feelings with
- Lie in bed at night wondering what it would be like
With a girlfriend/boyfriend:
- Filtering everything you send to them to make sure it's as witty/funny/smart as possible
- What did that look mean? Is it something I did?
- Am I really attractive to them? Why don't they say things like this used to?
- Lie in bed at night wondering if they care about you the way you care for them
Solution:
- Improve yourself until you have something to build confidence on
- Derive your own sense of achievement from the things you accomplish
- Don't allow your self-value to depend on how another person feels about you
Lastly:
- How you make people feel is more important than what they think of you
- Pretending to be someone you're not can get you into a relationship, but it will quickly spiral out into chaos before you have a chance to appreciate it
- People with expectations you can't achieve aren't worth pursuing
Solid advice.
DeleteHow about not having shitty friends that would ridicule you and/or not give you honest opinions
ReplyDeleteMy friends do this for me. Seriously, utterly and completely. Good friends should.
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