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Updated on Wednesday, November 4

#23277

OMG: Is it just me or is like every single girl and guy nowadays taken... its as if every girl i think is very nice and sweet and want to approach to ask out, i have to quickly think twice about the fact that they are probably already in a long time, stable relationship. How can u tell the difference between a girl whos single and whos not... like i honestly cant.

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  1. would give you a negative star if i can

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  2. What kind of question is that.. I'm a nice female and I'm not taken

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  3. perhaps when you stop referring to girls as objects to take, life will be a bit easier for you! If you treat people like people and then feelings develop, great.

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    1. But how can girls not be objects? Are you a C++ developer?

      Lame cs joke aside, I dont see how OP have referred girls as objects. Can you enlighten me on this?

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    2. 4B objects are something that has things done to them. IE you "take" an object. It's a colloquial term we use to mean "in a relationship" but referring to someone as taken objectifies them.

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    3. men are referred to as taken all the time and I definitely don't feel being called "taken" is objectification... don't turn this into something it's not, freaking troll

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    4. 4c. Thank you for the tip! I will keep this in mind.

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  4. They are only in a relationship when you are around
    OHHHHH REKT

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  5. The only way you can learn if they're in a relationship is if you get to know them and ask. So do that. If they are, then in the worst case you spent some time talking to a nice person I guess? I don't see how that puts you at a loss.

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  6. these notions don't mean anything for a woman, if you are better than her boyfriend she will go with you.

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    1. Maybe if everyone in this scenario is 12 years old, yeah. But otherwise emotional relationships are complicated, and the ones that last typically require work on both the guy's and the girl's part. A random interloper can't just waltz in and steal her away by being "better."

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    2. @7a you are implying girls of these age are emotionally stable and don't attach themselves to the first person they are infatuated with during first year and break up during fourth and saddle down with someone who can not only emotionally provide for them but also give them finically security
      u fagget

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    3. Yes, 7b, I am. And that was a VERY specific response you just gave.

      Nobody's perfect, obviously, and there are plenty of people out there - men and women both - who are selfish, manipulative assholes. But I don't think that's the norm. Most people are generally decent human beings.

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    4. Agree with 7a. I honestly don't understand that kind of mindset and how it's so prevalent in popular music either. If you've been dating someone long term and you're happy with them, you don't see anyone else as better; they're just different, which doesn't offer a solid case when contemplating whether to end your long term relationship or not. You can be smarter, richer and more handsome than my boyfriend but you haven't dealt with my shit for four years and been with me through thick and thin; no one else can compete.

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    5. 7's got it right and anyone moderately experienced with girls knows it.

      7a doesn't quite understand the implications of females being the "selecting" sex and maes being the "competing" sex.

      7b described 75% of university relationships and you know it.

      7c is ignorant enough to make the pitiful and demonstrably false response that "most people are generally decent human beings"

      7d is one of and increasing amount of girls who think a good boyfriend is the kind of dude that "deals with her shit". Quality!

      The modern female is totally out of control, 15 dicks is a low number these days.

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    6. Yeah, we're gonna just have to agree to disagree here 7e. It's clear we see the human race entirely differently, and if there's one constant in the universe, it's that the internet is entirely the wrong place to try and change someone's view of reality.

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    7. Wow... if 7e isn't a troll I'm suddenly very scared for my safety at this school.

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    8. I wouldn't go that far 7g. Jaded and hateful does not (necessarily) an outwardly violent person make.

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  7. They're already in a relationship for the same reason that you want to ask them out.

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  8. There's honestly no harm in trying. The worst case is they're already in a relationship. If they're not, you may have just missed out on someone totally compatible and worth dating. In all 5 years of school, less than a handful of people have tried asking me out to coffee and almost none of them followed through.

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    1. Best, most honest, most genuine response I've gotten. Thanks :)

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  9. I bet the problem is that you're putting looks as your #1 priority.

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    1. I think the word you're looking for is "prerequisite".

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  10. OP here. No actually I do not put looks as my #1 priority. Partially because its cause If Im being honest to myself Im an average looking guy.. So,to answer your comment, no, the problem is not me, its actually probably with girls who wear tons of makeup thinking they look better than the average guy and act stuck up and do not even give a guy a chance u kno..?

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