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OMG: I'm in my 3rd year of university. Been dating the same girl for many years. My girlfriend broke up with me because she's too focused on her career. I'm not sure how to take it, should I move on or hold onto false hope that maybe once we're done university, she'll want to be with me?
 

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  1. What a silly question. The mere fact you're calling it "false hope" already implies it's a wish you know will NEVER happen.

    Don't live in the past, and don't stress too much about the future. Just learn to accept where you are now. Be comfortable with it and with yourself. Before long, she'll be a thing of the past, and you won't be alone anymore either.

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  2. Move on obviously.

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  3. Move on dude. If they push you out for their "career" or "interests" now, they'll push you out later just the same.

    source: happened to me.

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  4. Nah man, when girls are done the're done.

    Their love has a shelf life of a couple years, once they run out they get bored and it never comes back.

    You'll realize this once you see her facebook status's saying how much she loves her new guy (hmm wonder what happened to that career... its just an excuse buddy).

    Dont worry, this may be your first lesson on the differences between male love and female love. You'll be hurt for months, she's going to get over you in a matter of days.

    We've all been there bud, its part of growing up and being a man.

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    1. *set to music* Wrong, wrong, wrong, wroooooong. You are so wroooooong.

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    2. Those redpillers are a fucking cancer I tell ya

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    3. Lol.

      I'so wrong, yet his has happened to 90% of guys. Ask your friends.

      Yet this has been done by 90% of girls. Ask your friends.

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    4. You must have awful friends, then. I'm going to go with, "What is confirmation bias?", Alex.

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    5. Okay, fine.

      Why are 70% of divorces initiated by women?

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    6. @4e Where are you getting that stat?

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    7. ^ Is there something preventing you from using Google? Fuck

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  5. OP here. Thanks guys. She told me that she does care for me, but she's just not ready to be in such a committed relationship. I'm just too much of a distraction for and she just wants to see what happens later. My heart has officially been broken...

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    1. She probably cares for you in the sense that she appreciates who you are as a person and all that you've done for her, but its taken her two years to realize she's not actually 'in love' with you, even though she may 'love' you. So move on buddy, and don't hold it against her or yourself, even though it doesn't sound like you would have anyways (:

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    2. Sounds like she used you. Means to an end OP.

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    3. That's a bit of a stretch there, don'tcha think?

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    4. She's basically telling you to take a backseat OP. Personally, I would simply move on as adults make compromises. If she is that self-centered then I think you deserve a better person in your life.

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  6. I have had this happen to me it sucks especially if you thought the time you had with her was special, but honestly no matter what anyone tells you it unfortunately won't get better until you get to feel this way with another girl again. Until then it will always sting a bit.

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  7. Okay none of these people know what is going on in this woman's head. As a person who has been in a serious long-term relationship and is very focused on career goals I can understand this. This woman may feel as though she is in a period of transition and needs to make the best decision for herself. She may feel this is necessary to do apart from you for a fear that if she factors you into her decisions she will resent you later on. She may also feel that she does not have the time to devote to your relationship which she sees as unfair to you. My advice, as a woman who has felt this way before, is to go on living your life. Give her space, meet other people, date other girls. Go forward because she told you to go forward, do not wait around for her. BUT you never know what will happen, one day things might be in the right place for both of you and if that happens, things may work themselves out. This should be organic however and not the result of you waiting. Sometimes you meet the right person at the wrong time. If it is meant to be it will be, but you still need to experience life and find your own passion.

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