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OMG: My girlfriend after going to a trip to Italy and visiting Vatican City for some reason has "re-discovered" religion and now wants to go celibate. I know damn well how much she loves sex, she was a fucking freak and now I am involuntarily celibate for her
 

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  1. OP, you need to really consider whether this is a dealbreaker or not. And you need to be very open with her when considering this.

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  2. Dump her religious ass.

    If I were in your shoes I'd be less upset about the sex, and more upset that she has become delusional.

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  3. Hey OP, I'm a practicing Catholic and my faith means a lot to me because it gives my life meaning. I too, went through a "re-discovery" stage because I didn't understand what it was all about before. It may be hard to understand the concept of chastity, especially in our culture today but ultimately it's about love. It doesn't mean that we lose the desire to have sex or love sex less. If anything, we value it even more. The beauty of chastity is that it allows us to experience authentic sexual attraction to the entire person, not just to the values of the body or pleasure. It's very brave of your girlfriend to try to live out a chaste lifestyle, knowing that she could lose you as a result of it. Chastity, is not easy, but then again anything that is of great worth never comes by easily. So my advice is that if you care about your girlfriend, help her to live the kind of lifestyle she has chosen, even though you don't understand it, and I pray that one day you may come to realize the beauty of it. If not, if all you wanted was the pleasure that you got from her, then I'd move on. She deserves someone who will love her for who she is.


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    1. fuck off you prude

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    2. Honestly 3, the problem I have with your argument is that it conflates "people who have sex regularly" with "couples who don't value each other as people." Which is simply false.

      A healthy relationship should be about understanding each other's mutual needs, and understanding that does include a perfectly natural, perfectly healthy need for sex. That doesn't mean it should be the only need we acknowledge and seek to gratify, but repressing and denying one's desire for sex with the argument that "this way I'll value it more" isn't healthy either.

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    3. I'm with 3b. While you do get to know a person entirely before sex if you wait until marriage (duh), all you're doing is giving up other sex. You're losing something in return for the good feels of being religious (whatever those are, I'm not religious). Unless your partner is in the same place they get nothing in return for what they're giving up. If you go in knowing that, then fine, but asking someone to then give it up half-way is kind of ludicrous.

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    4. Holy shit 3, I could explain at length how very very wrong you are but it'd be easier for everybody involved if I just summed it up by saying you're a terrible person and everything you say is grade A horseshit. Get fucked.

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    5. @3.a and @3.d :
      I am sick and tired of people like you. I don't care if you're not religious or whatever you think is true, but as long as someone doesn't attack you personally don't fucking insult them!
      @3.d specifically : I don't care if 3 is "very very wrong" as you put it, but how can you even prove him/her wrong if all you can do is attack him/her personally (ad hominem) ?

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    6. @3e I don't need to prove anybody wrong. The holier-than-thou type aren't going to be swayed by even the most compelling argument. But if they're going to come in here and talk like my relationship is any less authentic just because it's unchaste, all the flowery words in the world aren't going to make it any less personal.

      They can get fucked. So can you.

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    7. @3e: 3 implied that anyone who is not chaste does not experience "authentic sexual attraction to the entire person". They also said that if a person is unwilling to stay with a partner who chooses chastity, all that person wanted was pleasure. As a person who is currently involved in a non-chaste relationship, I take offense at those implications.

      And to 3, congratulations on having a strong faith that gives meaning to your life, but please refrain from devaluing other's relationships in the process.

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    8. Life doesn't have any meaning. If you're happier not having sex, good for you.

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    9. 3 sounds like someone from st jeromes

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  4. Masturbate. If you really want to make a point, masturbate while she's in the room. Go to the other side of the room, and do it there, while staring at her.

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