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#20857

OMG: Hopefully this qualifies as an OMG.

There's plenty of discussion on the state of dating and romance on this campus. More often than not, a guy (presumably) says something negative, and a bunch of women (presumably) swoop in and say 'stop making generalizations' and/or some form of 'US?! It's you!'

Well, I'm here to tell you that based on my experience that fault falls squarely in the laps of the women that go here.

Let me tell you how things went for me. I think that my expectations and attitude were reasonably typical. I hadn't really dated in high school...I'd like to think it was because I moved around a lot. I'd had one unrequited crush that was a big disappointment but I wasn't bitter or angry about it.

Coming to university, I was pretty optimistic for two reasons a) a lot more girls than in the smallish high schools I had attended, and b) EVERYONE was new so it wasn't just me for a change. Well, two years gone (almost) and I'm already thinking 'I sure hope things are better when I start working, because this place sucks.'

How, you ask, did I go from optimism to 'fuck this' in two short years? Let me give you some highlights.

a) the drunken idiot who hit me as hard as she possibly could, right in the middle of the Bomber, in a case of mistaken identity and who, when she saw me on campus later, didn't even have the courage to apologize. (In retrospect I wish I'd filed assault charges.)

b) My roommate...nice guy, freaking genius (if you are in a tough program and are a TA, and you have a rule that you will only work on school Monday through Thursday AND you are on the Dean's list you are pretty smart). Starts seeing some girl, they do lunch, dinner, he gets to lose his 'v card' and is obviously very happy with this girl. Phones her one weekend and her roommate breezily says 'Oh, she went home to see her boyfriend.' I've never seen anyone look so gutted in my life. Of course, like all guys, he tried to put a brave face on it.

c) My lab partners roommate...good looking, seemed decent enough. I was interested but she had a longterm bf, so no luck there. She and my lab partner and two other girls in their house go to the Dominican. She meets some American guy there, and spends every single night of her vacation fucking him. Then comes back and tells her bf how much she missed him and is all affectionate (I was there when they met for the first time after they came back). Talk about cold-blooded.

d) The great looking brunette in rez. Seemed nice enough, long term boyfriend back in The Soo or Sarnia or wherever. Decides she's going to shag someone else, after all, what's a girl to do. Of course, she picks an absolute douchebag who fucked anyone he could. Good choice! And then he comes to visit and she's 'thrilled to see him'. And he probably believes it.

e) I was hanging with the boys having a couple drinks. There are three girls out together, and one of this is my 'type'...I happen to have a weakness for hazel eyes, brown hair, and freckles (think Ellen Page). I'm not normally too fond of approaching women in clubs or bars but it was a bunch of students so what the hell. I go up and start to say something. I'm halfway through whatever I was going to say and she gives me absolutely the most withering look and goes (I'm not fucking kidding) 'You've got 30 seconds.' I wish I was quicker on my feet and could have responded 'oh that's okay I only needed five to figure out you're a huge bitch' but as it was I was kind of snorted/laughed that someone could be that rude and went back to tell my friends about it.

So, indulging in some root cause analysis, it's not 'us'

35 comments

  1. Seems like a case of selection bias. Where are the anecdotes about successful, faithful relationships? Where are the numbers comparing the relative frequency of same to the types you described in your post?
    Grade: Unsatisfactory, re-submit by the end of Spring 2015

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  2. If you think that both genders don't do this, you are sorely mistaken. There are uncaring, selfish people of every gender, race, and age. You don't get to just pin it on one group.

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  3. I think we can safely say there are horrible people on both sides of the fence on this one. That doesn't mean that everyone is like this though.

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  4. Dating is hard. This is not a shock to most people. Yes there are shitty people out there. But if you turn into a shitty, bitter person yourself because of those experiences your odds of finding someone nice are not going to go up. So listen to some Dan Savage, make an online dating profile and sign up for some clubs or intramural teams. It is a numbers game, and your sample size is way too small.

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  5. On point.

    Modern feminism's main goal is to demonize men. Sadly, many men fall for it and put that pussy so far up a pedestal that it might as well be in orbit. They will do literally everything for a a woman, and can't ever see a fault in them.

    As a result, modern women end up being entitled bitches. People treat them as if they are perfect, so they believe it. Men are given any and all responsibilities, therefore they believe that anything that goes wrong is the man's fault. Women have literally zero accountability for their actions because of this.

    But it really comes down to the man on this one. It got this bad because we let it, weak men let women get away with their bullshit for way too long.

    Swallow that fucking pill.

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    1. 'As a result, modern women end up being entitled bitches. People treat them as if they are perfect, so they believe it.'

      Damn straight.

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    2. THIS is some weak shit, dude. Excuses, excuses 'cause you can't get laid.

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    3. ^ on the contrary, realizing the true nature of women and acting accordingly only makes it easier to get laid. Its the reason girls like assholes. If you're a guy you'll realize this over time.

      This is feminism at work, can't have any meaningful debate about this issue without it dissolving into shaming men for whatever reason, in this case that "I can't get laid". Sure.

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    4. 'Excuses, excuses 'cause you can't get laid.' The customary petty insult that gets tossed out when the 'tosser' has nothing else to say. Get stuffed.

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    5. It's not like men have acted like entitled pigs for the entire course course of history. Now that the assholery is getting more evenly distributed between the genders a pathetic little bunch of you feel the need to cry over gradually losing ultimate power over the other sex.

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    6. ^ lol what a pathetic post. Come on snowflake don't be like that.

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    7. I am not entitled.
      I have accountability for everything I do.
      I take care of myself, as well as my long-term boyfriend.

      Why not stop picking up chicks at phils and go somewhere that mature women, or should i say people hang out. You might have better luck...but then again you seem like a douche. Get off reddit and get outside more often.

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  6. Im really sorry that this has been your experience/impression of women thus far ... if its any consolation, you sound adorable! Please dont lose hope/optimism, there are good people in the world.

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  7. There is one way to preserve your dignity as a man now that society has begun its demise with the pathetic behaviour of females.

    Be the guy fucking someones girlfriend instead of the other way around.

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  8. Aww I feel really bad about this post. As a female, I apologize for some girls' cold actions. Girl's can be very cold at times and it's due to taking advice from their friend's on how "their perfect man" should be like. Taking advice from fellow friend's is due to the countless films of chick flicks where you see every normal looking girl snagging the very good looking guy. I used to be like that until someone told me that in a few years your friends' might separate but your soulmate and the one you love will stay forever.

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    1. I think I am in love. A girl who is >real<

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    2. > as a female

      Found the dude!!!

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    3. Last time I checked I had a V, I'm pretty sure that qualifies as female.
      Also, why would a guy pretending to be a girl post that? What does he have to gain?

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    4. Welcome to the internet, 8c.

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    5. Sorry 8.c having a V doesn't qualify you as a female. Ask many of our ever so educated gender studies students that there are infinite genders that they're discovering and learning about every single day. Such accomplishments that surely help society as a whole.

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    6. 8e that was gold

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    7. 8.e here. I liked and agree with your comment 8/8.c. My comment was regarding the stupidity that is gender studies and its apostles that troll this site.

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  9. Don't be a tool. Just because you've seen a total of FIVE bad experiences involving dating, you've gone and generalized the women of UW. I can give you a bunch of shitty things that happened to my friends from men:
    a) One of my buddies cheated on his girl (gave him shit for that)
    b) One of my friends got roofied at a party
    c) One of my friends knocked on my door cause she was being harassed on the way home

    I could think of more but you see the point. Anecdotes don't prove that guys at Waterloo are shitty people. You should realize that this is the same thing with women.

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  10. LOL,

    Your sample size is 6! You've taken two years and have met 6 people, along with a selection bias. You've essentially met one shitty person every 4 months, that's not too bad. Unlike yourself who is bad, and you should feel bad. Improve yourself not the other people around you...

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  11. Life isn't fair. Suck it up. There are assholes galore, especially at a university that doesn't have much in regards to admission standards. Meet more people, find girls worth pursuing and not the entitled feminists that need excuses to permit shit behaviors. It will turn out. These girls do exist.

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  12. I can tell you're a massive whiny tool. Start giving less of a shit about you and more of a shit about other people and maybe you'll find someone who cares about you.

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    1. Thank you for your cogent, downright illuminating analysis. I can imagine that at admissions time I can imagine that undergraduate institutions must have been clamoring for you to attend. I just wanted you to know that I am grateful, nay, humbled that you chose Waterloo.

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    2. ^ Credibility dropped to 0. Wrong comment Einstein.

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  13. I have same experience. I am interested in some girls but sonetime what I receive is telephone call from police for criminal harassment.

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  14. Hmpf. Intriguing thread, especially in light of OP's point a 'the drunken idiot who hit me as hard as she possibly could, right in the middle of the Bomber, in a case of mistaken identity'. Three points - if a guy did that to a girl 1) he'd probably either be in jail or out on bail awaitaing trial, 2) he'd probably be tossed out of school, and 3) I'd LOVE to know how many people would be jumping in to talk about 'selection bias' and 'small sample sizes'. Is that a fucking joke?

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  15. It sounds like you've been looking in all the wrong places or for all the wrong type of girls. There are plenty of decent girls I know on our campus. Only thing is, they're not interested in relationships.

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  16. Correlation does not imply causation, son. You're forgetting that there are individuals of BOTH genders who are guilty of what you just described.

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  17. Snoop doggy dog here: It's over.

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