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OMG: School stress has been so terrible for the past two terms for me and I've reached a point where I can't even concentrate because I keep feeling like crying or wishing I was dead, and I have no other options than to just keep putting myself through this for another two years till I graduate. I honestly dont feel like I'll ever be happy again because of this stupid fucking school.

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  1. You're not alone, OP, I promise. And it's okay to feel the way you're feeling. Talk to me here iwannalisten@mail.com

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  2. i wish there was some other way to tell u, but this is the exact same way i feel... i coudlnt have put it into words better myself than how u explained all that up there...

    sometimes i seriously wish i could just run away to some far place.. and just live without so much pressure and stress..

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  3. You are likely suffering from depression. Go to health services right now. Get a friend to go with you.

    It can only start to get better once you treat your illness.

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    1. I hate when people just automatically assume its depression. I was in the SAME situation and you know what it was? I just wasn't doing what was right for me. I wasn't in the right program I was just going through the motions doing what I thought was expected of me.

      Take control of your life, really find out what makes you happy and how you can make a living doing it. I may sound crazy to you, but its the only true way to be happy.

      Re-evaluate your life people! Don't just do things because they are expected of you, do them because it is what you desire!

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    2. What if my desire is laying in bed watching youtube? I do that pretty much everyday but that isn't going to become a career. Success takes hard work and long hours.

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    3. 3b, then you haven't found your passion yet. it took me 2 years of college, 2 of university and 2 of working manual labor to figure out what i really want out of life. people expect it to be easy, to just wake up one day and realize their path, but the truth is for many people it takes years of learning about yourself and lots of introspection to figure out what i want, who i am and where i am going but i am glad that i made the effort to figure it out, or else i would be just like the rest of the people posting in this thead.

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    4. 3b here. The "do something you love and you'll never work a day in your life" is a bit bs. A good job consists of mastery, autonomy, and appreciation. You are good at what you do. You have control over your projects. You are appreciated by your peers for the work you do. Any job can have these three things; you don't necessarily require a re-existing passion.

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    5. 3d i guess we see and live life differently. its only BS if you put limits on yourself to not let that become a reality in your life. i made a choice and a plan and i am doing something i love. work is like a hobby to me and i couldn't be happier. i truly do wish everyone could find such happiness and not wake up one day wondering why they've let their life pass them by.

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    6. I like your attitude 3a. Carpe Diem! I don't think people realize how short and special life is! Why not go out and take a chance, do something different...make what you do count. I hope I have the means/courage to do just that one day.

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    7. "wish i was dead" is pretty well indicative of depression, so 3 is talking some sense. depression this advanced (2 years you say?) is not going to go away on its own. get help or get worse

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    8. Maybe this is what OP is passionate about... but repeated stress (University can be extremely stressful) can contribute to depression. Not to mention that when your depressed you often don't think clearly. OP needs to get professional help and then they can make those decisions.

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  4. OP you are not alone. I'm graduating next year and this ****ing school took me to hell and back, but just hold on, we are in this together. This school pushes you to your limits and its tough as shit but when it's over you will feel unstoppable,

    OP you are not alone. You are one of many. Don't be afraid or ashamed to ask for help.

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    1. I found the difficulty of this school to be sub-par imo. The greatest challenge I faced was with incompetent administration rather than any testing of subject matter.

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    2. ^ Compared to what baseline 4a? You have a degree from Harvard, MIT, and UofT to compare against or are you making a baseless argument? I know for me I have found this school to be tough as nails, not only academically, but socially. It honestly does feel that there is no support structure and UW expects you to do things on your own. Whatever, it's their prerogative but I'd be telling 2011 me to smarten the hell up and that prestige is not the end all be all of degrees.

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    3. 4.a It is a little ridiculous that I have to say this but... not everyone is the same. There is also a huge variety of programs here that might have different difficultly levels for different people. I find it annoying when people say things like "if I did it and found it easy, then every should". Bottom line, OP there are lots of people who feel (or have felt) the same way that you do. Please take advantage of programs this school has. Make a appointment with counselling services.

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    4. @4c counselling services you're kidding, right? 4a's "incompetent administration" is worst there. Once they clean up their own shit they can legitimately start helping the rest of the campus.

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  5. You are not alone. This is exactly how I feel and my friend even asked me if I posted this hahahaha.

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  6. Hi, OP. I hope it gets better for you! I felt the same way as you two nights ago - I tried to fall asleep but couldn't since I knew I had work to do. So I got up at 3AM, did an assignment, and went back to sleep. It was hard to sleep last night too with all the stress.

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  7. Just wondering, what program are you in. What kind of stress levels are we looking at?

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  8. Yup, pretty sure most students feel this way. I'm not trying to trivialize what you're feeling. Sometimes it feels so good to not give a fuck for a day or even an evening. Go out with friends on a Friday and make a pact to not talk about school. Or even just relax by yourself on Netflix or youtube for a few hours without procrastinating. What I mean is plan your fun time. Say to yourself that you won't worry about homework after classes this Friday for two hours and you'll enjoy a movie or video games or whatever. It's going to help your sanity much more than what you could accomplish worrying about school work.

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    1. Good points! You need balance in your life.

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  9. I noticed for me an issue was perfection. I was pushing myself really hard to get high grades and do well. But once I let that fear of failing get out of the way, school has been much less stressful.

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  10. Just because you think it doesn't mean it's true. OP, you are loved and worthy of life regardless of your school performance. You have value solely because you exist. The world is different because you are in it. I suggest finding someone to talk to. Reaching out is really really hard, but OP, trust me: hold on. It will get better.

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    1. I could not agree more with this ^... it feels so much better, and i mean so much better to know other people know exactly how i or we feel..

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  11. That's me in a nutshell. I have been so frustrated and disappointed in myself lately, and no I do get good grades and go around attend events and attempt to socialize. But it's just that weird stress taking over. it's oddly comforting to know that I'm not alone in that. Wish we could all meet up or just talk about it sometime. That would be great

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    1. Agreed, we should try to meet and form a support group of sorts where we can all support each other!

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  12. I felt the same way as you in my 3rd and 4th years. This University isn't right for everybody - the best thing for you might be to find a more program or University. On the bright side, my life became a million times better upon graduation, and I would never want to return to my time at the University of Waterloo. I hope you find the same happiness I did.

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