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Updated on Thursday, January 29

#20255

OMG: Okay, quick poll OMG: What's your opinion on FWBs and/or polyamorous relationships?

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  1. Knock yourself out, what should anybody else care what you with your love life?

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  2. Difficult. Prone to backfiring. I thought I could handle it but I couldn't. Good luck.

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  3. I'm cool with FWB but not poly. Love, to me, should be between two people, not multiple, but sex doesn't equal love. I don't care what other people do, go and have all the polyamorous relationships you want, just don't involve me.

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  4. So long as all parties are respected and feelings are clearly communicated, I have no issue with it.
    I am in a LT relationship and had a fuck buddy on the side for a bit. All partners knew and we are both still friends with her today. We stopped simply due to distance. I personally feel that it strengthened my relationship with my boyfriend.

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    1. Lol your bf sounds like a little pussy.
      "Hey babe, I'm gonna fuck this other guy but you can still be my bf and buy me shit and pay for dinner and stuff."
      "That's cool babe, have fun."
      What a bitch.

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    2. Uh, maybe I am misreading, but I think it's more like..
      "Hey babe, I'm gonna fuck this other GIRL but you can still be my bf and buy me shit and pay for dinner and stuff."
      "That's cool babe, have fun."

      Does that change your mind?

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    3. 4.a here. You're right 4.b, I missed that. And yes, that does change my mind as long as the dude was able to get in on that.

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    4. 4.a here. You're right 4.b, I missed that. And yes, that does change my mind as long as the dude was able to get in on that.

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    5. guess you guys didn't read the le reddit thread about a chick who wanted an open relationship and it backfired on her and the dude started having these mass fuck episodes which really pissed her off.
      At the end she had to beg him to stop fucking other girls

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    6. 4 here.

      Yes, I am girl and the fling was with a girl.
      No, he isn't a pussy.
      No, he doesn't "sleep around".
      If he wanted to bang another girl, he would tell me and we would discuss it. Neither of us approach anyone else without consulting the other first.
      No, we aren't in an 'open' relationship. We don't date other people, we just have some fun in the bedroom. It isn't romantic or emotional.

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    7. Sorry 4f, I can't see how this can lead anywhere long term. I guess my girlfriend is enough for me.

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    8. 4.g, that is fair. I am not saying this is for everyone.
      We have been together for 8.5 years, and it works for us.

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  5. As long as all parties involved know what they're getting into and agree, then there's no probem

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  6. STD breeding ground

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    1. you must be a C++ programmer

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    2. 6a what the actual fuck? :P

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    3. 6b have you never used the standard template library?

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    4. Yeah I have, it just made me laugh, I didn't expect that joke at all haha

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  7. 'I want my cake and eat it too'

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  8. I would never take part in a polyamorous relationship. End of.

    Friends with benefits is another story. I've been in several of these and each of them has ended well. Most of them ended with us remaining friends; we just knew when to stop. When one of us wound up having a thought of being in a relationship, we mentioned it to the other person and cut sexual ties right away and never had a problem. Only one ended when someone said they wanted more than sex and it worked out because both of us wanted that - and here we are 3 years later most likely getting married next summer.

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    1. Can you please start a blog on how to communicate.Thanks!

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    2. Ha, I don't plan on starting a blog any time soon. However, communication in these situations is very easy when you think about it. When someone starts wanting a relationship and the other person doesn't, you simply stop flirting and keep your hands to yourself. Make jokes about other people, media, and other interests, but not so much about each other (at least not physical).Compliment each other fewer times and focus more on hanging out in bigger groups. Cutting sexual ties is relatively simple - you just stop having sex. Either find it somewhere else, replace the former FWB with masturbation, or actively look for someone who has relationship potential for you.

      As for the FWB that technically failed because we wound up dating, it was going the same way as the others. He mentioned that he was starting to have feelings for me and that while he had a lot of fun with me, it would be best to stop seeing each other sexually. I said that I had been feeling the same way and was going to bring it up - that led to a discussion about whether or not we wanted to be in a mutually exclusive relationship, and voila, 3 years later we're solid.

      Frankly I don't want to give any more communication tips about once you're in a relationship, as there are probably people who know better than I do. But when it comes to getting into relationships or scaling back to friendships, I seem to know what I'm talking about (or at least it worked for me).

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    3. Firstly, I don't think friends with benefits is a suitable option. I think that a guy would be more happy in a polyamorous one. Unfortunately, there are those of us who "homewreck" and think that's what it is. (Consult an expert)
      Lastly, I think that men will be men and that sex will never be enough.

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  9. h-how do lips feel?

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  10. Wow, what's with all the poly hate on this thread.

    My bf and I are poly. He has one another partner who I'm good friends with. I've had crushes on a couple of people here and there but none of them have really worked out. We're great. I think I like him more because we're poly. We have very little jealously between us and very open communication. But it's definitely not for everybody. Check out r/polyamory if you want more resources.

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    1. THIS is what a strong relationship is. Communication, recognizing that jealousy is silly and that you don't own a person.

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    2. The way I see it, if you're not close enough in a relationship for there to be no room for other people then you're not very close at all.

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  11. It's not for me, but if those involved are honest about it and ok with it then I'm ok with it.

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