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#20325

OMG: How do guys have the courage to ask a girl out?
I'm just too scared to get up and ask
I fear rejection

18 comments

  1. "A very common failure mode here is thinking to yourself “I know that they’ll just say no, so really there is no point in asking at all.” That might be true (though it probably isn’t), but the way I look at this is that it’s their job to say no if they’re disinterested.

    It’s not my job to say no for them, and it’s not your job either. Give people the common courtesy of not putting words in their mouths. If they’re going say no to you, make them do it themselves. People can be surprisingly kind about saying no, and almost everyone will show regret in needing to do so. Very few people are actively trying to be assholes."

    http://sandymaguire.me/blog/get-the-girl/ (I'm not the author)

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    1. Good guy anonymous

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    2. I don't like ppl i dont trust approaching me.
      I'm sure if u exercised enough a girl would date u.
      Also, maybe ppl should be more open minded about gender roles.

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    3. 1b
      *expects man to "exercise enough" to get a date*
      "maybe ppl should be more open minded about gender roles"
      ^ Excellent case of cognitive dissonance.

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    4. 1a
      Nothing wrung with hanging out at bars maybe a hot tomboy
      open mindedness is nice. When u fit in....

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    1. Yah, that's right Pussy Man (TM)!

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  3. I don't. That's why I wait for them to make it blatantly obvious they're into me and even then I fuck it up more often than not.

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    1. This is me. And I'm relatively decent looking too but I'm a bumblefuck when it comes to talking to cute girls. #dialown

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  4. regret is worse than rejection

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    1. I would disagree.. the degree of regret for the possible relationship isn't that great when your knowledge of them is low.

      However, rejection is cutting to the core of your confidence and can reduce your interactions in the future as well. Basically, am I willing to risk my current relationship status (friend, onlooker etc.) to make a possibility that could be accomplished with other people come true.

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  5. Just ask her out to dinner, or coffee, or skating etc. It's that simple, too many people are high strung about it thinking they have to put on some show. Don't say the word "date," it's pretty much already implied, don't make it weird with your raging boner. Just casually ask her out to something that you both would find fun (like paintballing), or something that you both have to do at least one point in the day (eat). If you get her to say yes that means she at least likes or finds you attractive enough to shove food down her throat for an hour or two in front of you. All you have to do is have a conversation with her; make her laugh. If it doesn't go well or she's not down for any sort of steps toward a relationship. Fuck it, keep swinging the bat.. At different tits though.

    Play on.

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    1. I'm taken. its in my diary or "diary"

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    2. What's wrong with my raging boner?

      For the love of OMGUW, do not swing a bat at anyone or any part of anyone's body (especially tits)!

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  6. the trick is to wait long enough to see some flaw, hence convincing yourself that there is one better waiting for you

    HUEHUEHUE

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  7. Just go for it. And, yes, if they shut you down, you will feel bad but that's part of growing up. I don't want that to sound condescending...it really is (at least if you are a guy).

    While we are on the subject...women/ladies if a guy asks you out, it is ACTUALLY a compliment. Even if it was someone whose doing it based solely on appearance, it's still a complement even though you'd rather they look a little deeper. So when the time comes, try and be pleasant and avoid the 'Ew, I think you have leprosy' look that most women on this campus (and Laurier) dish out.

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