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#20257

OMG: I've been feeling really down recently, because I can't make friends. It's almost impossible for me!

I'm from around here, I think I'm pretty interesting and not an eyesore. I can socialize but nobody wants to stick around. I'm unable to make girlfriends, especially. Its easy for me to make guy friends (because I'm a girl...), but all I want is a girl companion. I've tried everything, I joined clubs, etc. Nothing.

And I'm really worried about next year. Who am I supposed to room with if I don't know any girls?

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  1. I'LLLLLLL BE YOUR FRIEND <3

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  2. You won't die if you live with guys.

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    1. my parents are indian. Nuff said.

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  3. There are plenty of landlords who will find people for you, so theres no need to worry about that.

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    1. the experts know what they are doing

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  4. If you're living off-campus then there's no rule against living with guys (unless your landlord is one of those "females only" types).

    It's more important to find people that you can peacefully coexist with, than making sure they're the same gender as you.

    - Anon who has lived off-campus in a mixed gender house

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    1. Isn't it against the law to discriminate against gender for renting? If its common law (you share space/a kitchen) then they can make whatever rules they want.

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    2. It probably is, but who really wants to go to the effort of reporting someone when you can speak with your dollar and just not rent from them? The only way I see this being an issue is if you landlord tries to enact this policy while already living in a mixed-gender house.

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    3. @4a It is very illegal, but taking a case to the Human Rights Tribunal is a long and bureaucratic process... so most of the landlords that are violating the law don't actually get any punishment.

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    4. 4c, not to mention costly. And proving that it's *actually* discrimination by gender isn't as easy as you might think.

      In short, a landlord effectively has complete freedom to decide who they do/don't rent to. Which is fair, IMO. Once a lease is signed it's a different matter, but before signing - if it's my property, it should be my call who I allow to live there.

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    5. I am not excusing landlord's who make this choice because of their own prejudices, but sometimes if a landlord finds a women renter who then discloses that they are not comfortable living with men or because of their religion they can't live with men,t he landlord will make that rule.

      As a landlord, I encountered this issue. I have no problem with men or women livign in my house, but I was about to sign the lease with a girl after I spent months trying to find someone,. Right before signing, she asked me if I would be renting to men and that she would not live with men because of her religion. I was torn because I would either have to turn down men who might want to rent with me for the next five months or I could tell her that i do allow men to live in the house, and lose her as a tenant. At least this way, i had one tenant and still had the opportunity to find other women.

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  5. There are various women's groups on campus, OP (Women in Engineering, Women in Computer Science, Women in Math, WiSTEM, Women Who Code, FemPhys, etc.) You could try one of those?

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  6. Live with guys you fucking loser

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  7. Was in the exact same position last year. When you are looking for student housing next year, a lot of Student Housing have the option of leasing in an all-girls unit (which is what I'm doing). Who knows, maybe the people you move in with will become your close friends. Good luck and don't stress! :)

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  8. I've always lived with randoms. Just find a room in a house and see who shows up in September.

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    1. I lived with a good friend one term. Worst decision ever. We just played ps4 and bullshitted all the time without getting any studying done. It didn't help that he was on co-op so he never had any homework.

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  9. Nothing wrong with living with guys.
    They make better roommates anyway.
    No drama.

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    1. Also cleaner for the most part and cook more. Maybe its just the girls I've lived with and seen but I've been around for a while and this continues to be true as a general rule.

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    2. Every girl I have lived with has been much cleaner than the guys I live with, with the exception of women's hair everywhere.

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  10. Is there a reason you have a hard time making female friends OP? You haven't given enough details.

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    1. I'm not used to it. Never had a knack for making girlfriends growing up, I was a tomboy. Girl friends are not my forte.

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    2. The reason I ask is because I am sort of tomboyish myself. But I have tons of girlfriends. If you have only ever hung out with guys, maybe you have an idea in your head that having girlfriends means you need to behave in certain ways, talk about certain things, and do certain things.

      But my relationships with all of my girlfriends are pretty similar to my relationships with my guy friends. But that's because I don't act differently depending on who I am around. If you are clear about who you are, you'll attract people who like those things about you that maybe, right now, you think are hurting your chances of making female friends.

      People are variable. Just as all men are very different from one another, all women are different. Just as there are boyish girls there are girly guys. My point is, people are different. If you're a human being, you should be able to make female friends who are similar to you. A lot of my girlfriends are also tomboyish types. So, just be open!!

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  12. Let's be friends this sounds like me!!

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  13. Can we be friends cause this sounds like me..

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