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OMG: It sucks when your SO doesn't know how to balance school life and a relationship. Feeling useless and confused about our future together

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  1. Tell your SO about this.

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  2. I know how to balance a relationship and school perfectly: school comes first. I am not going to let someone who I might not be with in a year change my future. I will give up other stuff for the relationship but not school.

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    1. Forget about that. The ideal balance is whatever maximizes your happiness.

      Not that it's as simple as that. A good relationship should COMPLEMENT the rest of your life, rather than being something that places a DEMAND on it. You and your partner should understand each other's emotional needs, and be respectful of your respective needs for space and time of your own.

      "School comes first" is an oversimplification that I think leads to a lot of problems for people.

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    2. I know how to balance a relationship and school perfectly: the relationship comes first. I am not going to let a degree that enables me to become a cubicle slave for the rest of eternity change my future. I will give up other stuff for school but not the relationship.

      Seriously speaking, I think putting school first is generally a pretty good idea, but when you meet someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with - all bets are off.

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  3. Well #2 is going to live a sad and lonely life, but hey, as long as they have their career and live for themselves they will end up getting what they wished for - themselves.

    OP personally my feelings are similar to yours. I think if a person cannot have the commitment (competence?) to be able to balance life and school there may not be a very positive future forthcoming. Just substitute school for a career.

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  4. It's pretty easy. Study as much as you can, even in your free time so that way you can maximize the time you spend with your SO. If you're in the same program, study together at the library and then go home and fall asleep together watching a movie. On days when both of you are really busy, maybe just opt for a sleepover because even a little time spent together is better than no time spent together. You could even take a class together if your program/schedule permits it! GOOD LUCK

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  5. Fuck it, just cheat on her. It'll be fun.

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  6. #3, saying that #2 is going to live "a sad and lonely life" shows just how misplaced yout priorities are. School doesn't last forever, for God's sakes. A few years, and you're out. THEN you can focus most of your attention on romantic relationships (not saying it can't be done now, just saying it will be easier then). Sacrificing school means sacrificing opportunities and having a lesser chance of being as successful as you might want to be. Which might make even make your partner leave you in extreme cases, but that's another story. For me it's school first, in all situations. (But maybe I'm only think this way because I want to get into med school *shrug*)

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