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OMG: I want a boyfriend so bad, but I wouldn't put myself into a relationship unless I find someone I like who also likes me. I will be much happier if I could spend a lot of time with a loved one. To find the one, I feel it is almost impossible.

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  1. Don't overthink it.

    It's not healthy to be in the position of saying "I will be much happier if I could spend a lot of time with a loved one." That's making somebody else responsible for your happiness. Take a look inside; figure out how to be fully happy in your own right and romance will come naturally after that.

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  2. What is your ideal type/ what are you looking for in a partner OP? but I hate to say @1 is probably right about this.

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    1. OP here.
      Ideal type: intelligent, warm, open mind, works hard, etc.

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    2. ... tall, muscular, big dick etc.

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    3. LMAO.......
      so, i know a guy, who knows a guy, who meets all the requirements...

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    4. Since this is the internet: I meet all your requirements, and I am a multimillionaire

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  3. I feel the same way.

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  4. You can make someone you like to like you. Happened to me and my s/o

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  5. 4a: 4 here. What I meant is if you start to show signs to the one you like that you like him/her, there is a big possibility for her/him to develop feelings to you too.

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    1. Fly back to china

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    2. If I know someone likes me, there's a chance I'll like them back simply because it's nice to be wanted. It's happened a few times but never went anywhere.

      For it to last, the second person has to find real reasons to like the person back.

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  6. I felt the same as you before, minus wanting a bf very badly. I felt like whoever I like will never like me back. Contrary to what 4 said, I don't think you can make someone like you by telling them you like them (seems to be the opposite for me). There were guys that chased after me that tried pretty hard too, and I can never develop feelings for them if I didn't have any when we met. When I finally met my current SO we both liked each other pretty much right away, so it wasn't long before we started dating and we have been together for 3 happy years now. So based on my experience, I'd say don't try to look too hard, focus on improving yourself and be happy and confident without having a partner. When the right person comes your way you'll know.

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  7. 1 has it. People don't want to be with desperate, clingy people. They want to be with people who are fun and secure. Focus on improving you and people will notice and want to be in your life. You also don't know that spending a lot of time with a loved one will even make you happier or not. Relationships are work, usually it's happy work but compromise is necessary and you aren't free to just do anything you want anymore, you have to consider that some behavior will bother your SO. You shouldn't invest all your energy in dreaming of the perfect relationship with "the one", it's not healthy and won't happen if you're desperate.

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  8. I have a great family, friends, and work/life/school/sports/etc. balance, but I miss having a SO. I think you can be fully secure and happy in yourself, but still miss having someone. There are some voids that friends and family just can't fill, if you've had love in your life before.

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  9. Get a dog and some peanut butter.

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