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OMG: I'm gay and I'm really scared about going to Waterloo. What will my roommate think?

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  1. There's a pretty vibrant queer community here at Waterloo, and most of the people I've met on this campus are pretty accepting/open minded when it comes to sexual orientation.

    You don't need to worry - no one is going to judge you here.

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  2. it's 2014 buddy, homophobia is a thing of the past in these here parts

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    1. Riiight. Because campus safety is such a priority in these here parts.

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    2. 2a I've been here since 2009, and have never heard reports of anything that would be considered a 'hate crime.'

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    3. Get your head out of your ass. 2011 UW hate crime.

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    4. 2c, got a link to any hate crimes on campus committed on the basis of sexual orientation?

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    5. Yea I agree with 2d that was against women, this guy's a dude.

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    6. 2d, yes sexual orientation is completely different from sex and people doing hate crimes are known for their powers of discernment about this.

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    7. 2f, an asshole is generally an asshole, no matter what the situation. Therefore it's unlikely someone's a misogynist in one setting and a pleasant human being in all facets of his/her life.

      But being sexist/misogynist is not the same as being homophobic, and the presence of one does not mean a prevalence of the other.

      The point here, for OP's sake, is that this campus is generally a pretty welcoming place, and that if he meets someone who is homophobic, they are decidedly in the miniscule minority.

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    8. Holy crap 2c, that girl in the article is so pathetic. Targeted as a woman? Give me a fucking break and cry more. This bs has gone far enough.

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    9. 2h, MacLeans sucks, has useless examples and chronically misses the point. Poster 5 has a better link.

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    10. 2h, this Imprint article was better and shows the offending (in my opinion) poster. Posters on UW campus target women
      What do you think of the poster?

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  3. I think most people here are accepting towards different sexualities. There's going to be a few assholes, but I think those kinds of people are everywhere. If you live in residence and your roommate is homophobic, talk to your Don and/or the Residence Life Coord and they'll probably be able to switch them.

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  4. Don't ask. Don't tell. Keep your sexuality to yourselves. Don't care if you're straight homo, bi, whatever. Why the frick do people have to make it KNOWN and put it out there "Hey look I am gay. I need special attention". Screw that. What you do in the bed with another person is between you, that person and whatever higher deity you believe in (if you do). Society is going to shit.

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    1. 4, I understand what you're going for, but saying "don't ask, don't tell" is problematic for reasons you may not even realize.

      Nobody is suggesting the case should be "I'm queer, give me special attention." At least I'm not (straight man here btw). But people should certainly be able to say "I'm queer, don't treat me any differently from anybody else you know who's straight."

      When you say "don't ask, don't tell," you are preventing any queer friends you might not know you have from sharing that part of their life with you. When I have a girlfriend, we hang out with my other friends, and they know we're dating. "Don't ask, don't tell" suggests that if you have a gay friend who has a boyfriend, the two of them can't be equally honest with you about that fact. Do you see this problem?

      My explanation isn't as clear as I'd like it to be, but I'm sure there are others who can back me up.

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    2. 4, that's a silly statement. What if two men or two women want to hold hands when they are walking, or give one another a kiss on the cheek. There is a difference between being obnoxious about one's sexuality and being open about it.

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    3. 4.a +1, You made yourself perfectly clear. I could not agree more! :)

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    4. I am with you on this one.

      Gay people don't annoy me.

      People who make being into dick their entire persona do.

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    5. 4d, I bet you can say that about lots of groups of people though.

      I'm no less annoyed by people who shove their religion in my face, for instance. Or couples (gay or straight) who flaunt their relationship by engaging in exaggerated public displays of affection. Or people who are so into [insert hobby/interest here], they dismiss everything else as "uninteresting."

      ...I could go on, but I think you get my point.

      But unlike all those other things, I can at least understand gay flamboyancy. Being gay was seen as a 'shameful,' or 'dirty' thing for so long, that change had to start with gay people openly celebrating that part of their identity, and wearing it like a badge of honour.

      The result? In most parts of Canada (especially urban areas), you're unlikely to find much - if any - discrimination on the basis of gender identity (at least among Generation Y). Society isn't all the way to where it should be yet - but it's getting there.

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    6. 4, I can't tell if you're knowingly or unknowingly stupid.

      LITERALLY no one acts like "I'm gay, treat me special".

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    7. Would you do me a favor then and pass this message on to all those flamboyant heterosexual couples on campus then, they're always flaunting their sexuality and the PDAs gross me the fuck out. Seeing as you're the first person that has agreed that no one wants to see that shit!

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    8. Would you do me a favor then and pass this message on to all those flamboyant heterosexual couples on campus then, they're always flaunting their sexuality and the PDAs gross me the fuck out. Seeing as you're the first person that has agreed that no one wants to see that shit!

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    1. Still has nothing to do with the attitude towards the queer community on this campus. There have been some appalling acts of sexism on this campus, yes - but in all my time here this has always been a friendly community for the LGBTTQQ.

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    2. What appalling acts are you talking about, just the stuff from the link, right?

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    3. 5b, yeah. Also, once in a while a news article surfaces about women getting attacked near the campus, too - a few weeks before they catch the perpetrator (usually some creep with a record from Kitchener). So that too, I guess.

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    4. 5, that's a great article but hard to read in that format. Is there a better site with it?

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    5. 5d I found what looks like an audio recording of the town hall meeting.

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    6. Just read it. The picture lists a sexism panelist who's in another current OMG on sexism post 7.

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  6. What's the reaction to guys to walking hand in hand on campus?

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    1. Everyone will throw rocks...


      Really are you serious... no one will do or say anything

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    2. What's the reaction to a guy and a girl walking hand in hand on campus?

      The answer is the same: nobody actually cares. Or they say to themselves "damn... I'm still single. I need to get laid." And then they go back to studying for their midterm because who has time for a social life?

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  7. My roommate was gay, lived with him for two years. He was open about it with us, made jokes about it, and knew that we were all straight. 10/10 would live with him again. Just don't make it awkward and it won't be awkward.

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  8. I come from somewhere where being openly gay would definitely draw negative attention to yourself (not at all condoning that, but it's the truth), and I can tell you 100% that UW is a place where you don't generally need to worry about being targeted for sexual orientation. Trust me.

    As just about everyone else has said, there are assholes everyone. Some are going to bother you because you're gay, some because of your race, religion, size, body weight, hair colour, music choice, the way you laugh, etc. There is no end to the ways that idiots find differences in people. But, in general, the community here is accepting.

    This comes with one caveat that is, again, not simply related to sexual orientation, and has been mentioned already. If the only way you represent yourself to people is "I'm gay," then eventually, people are going to focus on this point, and you will open yourself up to being targeted. I am not saying that you should change any aspect of your behaviour, but realize that most people genuinely don't care what your sexual orientation is, and you constantly reminding them of it will not make them any more indifferent. Instead, you'll become the "annoying gay guy", and people will have a problem with you. It's the same as anything else. Just be yourself and you'll be fine though.

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  9. look man id love to have you as a roomate, being gay is like the best way to get girls, because they know they dont have what you need. That way your roommate can sweep in for the kill.

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  10. I'd absolutely not have a problem either. Like someone up higher said, it's a non-thing to me.

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  11. Don't assume that the other person will hate you before you know for sure. There will always be someone in the world that will dislike you in some way or another, but don't let these people take up the space in your heart where it should be used instead for you to love yourself, and for you to love those who truly love you for who you are. Besides, most people in Canada are open enough that you really shouldn't worry. And if in doubt, know that the law, and the school will always be on your side if you need to report any bullying. Don't be afraid to speak up for yourself!

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  12. I think he/she will think you are gay. I may be wrong though...

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  13. Only the sand niggers will give you shit for being homosexual. They're culture is still in the stone age. All the brown guys treated the homosexual guy on our res floor like shit. He was chill, funny. I'd have beers with him again.

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    1. Wow... fighting homophobia with bigotry and racism! I... don't think that's right.

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    2. (oh my, with advocates like this) .... See OP, as 13 shows, we've got our heads screwed on straight, so to speak.

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  14. Dont worry OP. Everybody in UW loves faggots!

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  15. I'd be thrilled. Gay guys make the best wingmen. Just saying.

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  16. My first year room mate was gay and she told me about it before moving in which made the transition easier. I was honestly more concerned about her peanut allergy lmfao (I love peanuts)... I can tell u from experience most good hearted people won't care at all, and if you have any problems you can report it and switch rooms, good luck ! :)

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  17. There shouldn't be any issues, most people don't make an issue of it.

    If there are issues, the don teams and the Housing Office (or your college's administration if you live in one of the colleges) are trained to deal with the situation.

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  18. lesbian who had a roommate - it was fine. she was cool about it. people stare and do double-takes when i hold hands with my gf. but the queer community is pretty good and we're getting a new gay bar soon [yay!]. when you move in just get to know your roommate without bringing it up and try to find out what kind of person he is. if he might be extremely religious or something it might be worth keeping to yourself around him to avoid drama. but regardless you don't have to be in the closet like you're gonna get kicked out if someone gossips. it will be fine, i promise.

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