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OMG: Do you see your significant other between terms if you're in different cities?

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  1. Not seeing each other enough is actually the reason we broke up ( my case). If you care about each other enough, you will see each other reasonable # of times based on distance, otherwise, co-op just killed your relationship bro...

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  2. Let me answer your question with another question: if you don't see your girlfriend for four months in a row, are they really your girlfriend?

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    1. Yes. You can still be a supportive SO from afar, if need be.

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  3. We make an effort to be together as often as reasonably possible. I mean, if you can reasonably do it, but you neglect to..it's just not even trying any more. I bet the "not trying" is really what breaks up co-op couples and not the "distance". Four months is nothing when you're both busy, but four months of only sort of caring about a relationship..

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  4. My SO and I have been in different cities for pretty much 3/4th of our relationship. The best thing you can do is budget your time wisely so you have time together; see each other monthly/every two weeks depending on distance and how long you can bear to go without seeing each other, and plan around that.

    My S/O and I have been apart in Toronto/Waterloo, and we mostly see each other every two weeks, alternating visits from one to the other as our schedules allow. It's a bit of effort, but if they're worth it, you're willing to put the time into it.

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    1. Honestly, Toronto/Waterloo isn't even that bad. I don't know how old you guys are, but there's definitely time to see each other every week if you wanted when you're in undergrad.

      Waterloo/San Fran, on the other hand... Not sure how people work that out.

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  5. Yeah I lost my gf to distance. I wish I had cut it off before I got too emotionally attached.

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  6. Think OP meant the 2 weeks between term end and start....

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  7. Bro, if you honestly love each other as people then you should be fine. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years now and we got together 3 months before he flew across the country for university. I didn't see him for 8 months and I was only able to call him once every two months or so, but we stuck it out. Now he's had multiple co-ops in Europe and we're still doing fine. I honestly don't understand how distance destroys couples, because it has made us way stronger.

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  8. my boyfriend lives and goes to school in the states, we see each other about once a month for a few days (our shortest trip was about 36 hours together, our longest was 10 days). we alternate who visits whom, mostly. our relationship has always been long distance though, so i think that changes the strain that is put on the relationship, because we knew the reality of it when we were getting into the relationship (and talked about it a lot).

    it's definitely possible to have a strong, loving relationship even if you see each other very infrequently. it's all about reshaping your relationship. find things the two of you can do online to make you feel close to one another. my boyfriend and i watch a lot of tv together when we're apart, and we call each other on skype every day.

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    1. sorry forgot to add: seeing each other between terms is nice, but since i work part time it's not always the easiest time. plus his school's schedule is a bit different from UW's, so like by the time his winter term was over, spring term had started here already. the best time to see each other is long weekends/breaks, if you can swing it, or find a time when one of you can stand to take a few days off

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