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#19531

OMG: I'm an atheist, but I often find myself defending my Christian girlfriend's decision to not have sex until marriage to my Asian immigrant mom.

What a world we live in.

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  1. Asian immigrant moms want their children to have sex before marriage? Mine has never said that before o_O

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    1. +1. i didn't realise this happened. not just asian moms, but moms in general.

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    2. Moms are people too, they know that sex makes people happy

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  2. Listen to your mum, mate

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  3. I'm not Christian or religious in any way but I think it's refreshing that this guy respects his gf's decision and defends her. Good for you.

    I agree with 1 though. I'm Asian and my immigrant mom would be horrified to know I've had sex. OP's mom is just an exception.

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  4. My mom is definitely the exception. She was raised by super liberal parents in metro Hong Kong and immigrated here in her 20s.

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    1. Your mom sounds cool. As does your relationship. I wish you guys the best of luck in the future!

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  5. yea it's good that you're defending, but have you thought about the consequences!? what if your girlfriend turns out to be a dead fish in bed

    you gonna be miserable

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    1. Always test drive the car before you make you purchase.

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    2. WOMEN ARE NOT CARS. WOMEN ARE NOT OBJECTS TO BE PURCHASED.

      Repeat it with me.

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    3. women are not cars. women are not objects to be purchased

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    4. oh stfu 5b. Literally the exact same thing could be said about guys, just replace girlfriend with boyfriend this isn't gendered

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    5. @5b: I believe that was an analogy

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    6. 5b, pick your battles. It's extreme nitpicking like this which hurts the cause of feminism and leads to the stereotype of the bitchy tumblr feminist.

      Oh, and women (or men) aren't fish either. Unless....dun dun dun

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    7. Woah 5f, I think you've earned a "Special Snowflake Award" for your efforts to not upset the men! You sure showed me! Please tell me about how different you are from other feminists and women so I can emulate it. After all, the pattern of referring to women such as cars to be driven before purchasing and like property to be tried out before committing to isn't at all indicative of a larger pattern of viewing women as interchangeable sex objects.

      I'm *so* sorry that pointing this out makes "feminism look bad"! I'm sure if I phrased things differently, all those men and women engaging in misogyny would have just changed their minds and stopped doing it. But since I said some angry words that upset them, we'll never convert them now :'( After all, people don't believe in social justice, they just believe in blindly following nice women that say nice things about them!

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    8. I think y'all are missing the point. By dating, OP is already "trying out" this girl, and she him. Sex is not the primary focus of a romantic relationship, especially if you're thinking of going long term. By reducing all that to "try before you buy", you're acting as though the only thing that matters is sex, as though the rest of the relationship is meaningless and isn't actually "trying out" anything, and you're definitely participating in the objectification of the woman (because obviously if she's bad in bed she has no other use, amirite?).

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    9. She can be bad in bed and still be great, obviously.

      A car can be perfect, but you wouldn't buy it if you had to wait a fucking decade to get the doors open now would you?

      Grow the fuck up and stop pretending like sex isn't a core part of almost all healthy relationships.

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    10. 5i, i think youre missing the point though.
      the only purpose of a car is to drive it. if its going to take you a "fucking decade" to get the doors open then it becomes useless.
      a woman does not just exist for your pleasure. so please get over this entire analogy because it does not apply.

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    11. ^I think the analogy was fine until 5i changed it, he/she messed it up for the reasons you said 5j

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    12. no, the analogy is perfectly fine (but not perfect, its an analogy you retards).

      You guys turned a broken car into OMG YOU FUCKING PIG THE VAGINA HAS A WOMAN ATTACHED TO IT YOU PATRIARCHAL SHITLORD just so you can have one more thing to argue about.

      Set up a strawman, knock it down, classic way to 'win' an argument when you have no valid points.

      HERE IS THE POINT THAT ALL OF YOU ARE MISSING/TWISTING:

      A woman is not solely for my pleasure, but if she doesn't provide pleasure what the fuck is the point? I should WANT things that don't pleasure me?

      You guys are fucking stupid.

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    13. and you're a shallow idiot on legs.
      if the only way you can "get pleasure" is through sex then I feel very very very bad for you.

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    14. here we go again. "The only way I can get pleasure is through sex".

      sure, ya, I totally said that.

      There are many, many ways I get pleasure from women. I ask you, how many of those things generally require me to be close enough to a girl that a relationship makes sense?

      Go to the movie? Na I can do that with any girl
      Hang out this weekend? Na I can do that with any girl
      have a meaningful conversation? Na I can do that with any girl

      HAVE SEX? Hmm, this one might require me to be in a relationship.

      Get it? No, you fuckin don't because you can't get off your high horse.

      Relationship = sex

      No sex? Getting romantically involved is a waste of my time.

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    15. I really hope I don't actually know you in real life.
      That is all I have to say to that.

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    16. aaand your entire argument has been reduced to its true form, all it is is an ad hominem attack with literally zero content and no actual points.

      I like sex, goddamn I'm worse than hitler.

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    17. 5n: Why don't you just get a fuck buddy then? A relationship isn't just different from friends because of sex.

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    18. 5n here

      Its because I enjoy having an emotional connection to girls I have sex with. I had a fuck buddy at one point, not for me.

      Making love > fucking

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    19. 5a here. This isnt sexist. Are you suggesting that girls don't value sex? Sex is an important part of the relationship for most couples. It doesnt matter whether youre a guy or a girl. You should make sure youre compatible with the person to plan to spend the rest of your life with.

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  6. 5b is just angry because nobody wants to test drive their car

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  7. I'd like to test drive your car all day 5b ;)

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    1. haha, no you wouldn't.

      Every single bitch with that privileged mindset is a fucking landwhale, trust me

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    2. ^ sounds like somebody's butthurt because they can't get laid!

      ITT: dudebro who doesn't know what "privileged" means, can't avoid stereotyping or generalization, and assumes any woman who disagrees with him is a fat/ugly slur

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    3. ITT: A bunch of pussies too busy being white nights to acknowledge an obvious truth.

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    4. ^ literally can't comprehend why anyone would interact with, let alone defend, a FEMALE for a non-sex purpose. Wow, you're sure a charmer.

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  8. I test drove your mother's car, but I traded it in for some self respect.

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    1. This is still by far the funnies comment i have read on omguw. You, Mr. Anonymous Sir have my respect.

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  9. Sex is pretty important. Gotta make sure the D is in working order for the girl. And for the guy, he will grow tired if she is always rejecting him. Then they will divorce. Better safe than sorry.

    Have sex. Prevent divorce.

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    1. dat heteronormativity

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    2. Wait, so we're arguing about gender identity now?

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    3. 9a: 9 is just commenting on this specific situation where there is a D and a girl involved

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  10. Good for you for sticking by her side. Just make sure its something you can live with in your heart of hearts. Even when you're married, good sex will be years off and maybe will never materialize. Would you be content for decades? I know sex isn't everything but even a small thing can get to be a big deal if its a sore point for a long time.

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  11. Ya'll act like just because someone waited means they can never have good sex. Good communication = always the possibility to improve your sex life, no matter how good you think it is. A relationship without sex can still foster great communication!

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    1. Just practically speaking, sex is a skill in many ways. As you get older you get worse at learning new things, worse looking, and worse at "letting go" of your fears and anxieties that have been building up your whole life. Plus, if you only ever have sex with one person you're pretty limited in your experience. Its like partner dancing. You can be pretty good dancing with only one person but the only way to improve is to dance with other people.

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