OMG UPDATE: Like us on Facebook or follow us on Twitter to get updates on updates!

Updated on Wednesday, July 23

#19515

OMG: Do you ever just want to say to someone, "Look. I'm flattered. But we're friends. We've only ever been friends. I do NOT see you in a romantic light. Stop following every little thing I do online. You're turning from a good friend into a weird stalker. Not. Cool."

16 comments

  1. Nope. I just stop talking to them. meh
    After not replying to msgs and giving one word answers... most people take the hint

    Good friends don't lead other friends on. My natural instinct when I find out a "Friend" likes me is to be as mean and cold as possible, to ensure they never make the mistakes of ever falling for me harder. I'm pretty much a cold heart bitch when it comes to making sure they stop liking me .

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. ^ this.

      Some dudes (depending on the desperation/delusion they feel about you) will take friendliness as a sign that they still have a chance. It sucks but sometimes you gotta shut that whole show down ASAP and sometimes in a cold way, but it's sometimes the only option.

      Delete
    2. Don't want to be a cold bitch, but also don't want to lead him on. It sucks.

      Delete
    3. @1b a lot of girls have what guys call "white knight orbiters" These are the guys that are "just your friends" but provides you with the comfort of validation, attention, and aid whenever it suits your needs. Don't get me wrong, some guys are legitimately your friends, but a lot of these "orbiters" revolve their life around the object of their affection. (i.e. you) They're the ones that randomly ask you how your day's going, seems to hate your boyfriend or any guy you're interested in, and jump at the first chance to just to "hang out."

      Most girls like this, because no boyfriend, or lack thereof is perfect. So when girls are bored, we talk to these "friends." They're also addictive and hard to give up, because they're the nicest people out there, they do/agree with w/e you say. You're just not attracted to them in any way, i.e. either because they're too short, too ugly, or have zero fashion sense. But overall, they're still there for you to talk to, and they do stuff for you, so you consider them a good friend. But for them, they're bitching about being in the friendzone on reddit/misc/and omguw.

      You're not doing anyone any favors by leading them on and just being nice. The courteous thing to do would be to be a cold heart bitch and cut them out, because they're too weak to leave you, even though both you and I know they have no chance with you.

      Delete
    4. Often girls will say the following:

      "aw you're the nicest guy ever! Some girl would be so lucky to have you one day!"
      Translation: "due to you being too ugly, or too short, I will never date you, but you know, some other girl might!"

      Delete
    5. @1a. Can confirm a lot of friends who know a guy has a thing for you will also build it up to make it seem feasible. (I've done this)

      *tells friend* "Yea she totally digs you! Just go talk to her! Make a move!"

      *thinks* She's a 7.5, and you're a 3 on a good day, maybe. in the right light. I guess it could work? yea why not, sure she's way out of your league but miracles happen right?

      Delete
  2. Happened to me. I just blocked him from everything.

    ReplyDelete
  3. I really hope this isn't about me lol...

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I really hope this isn't about me lol... +1

      Delete
  4. I think a lot of the time guys are to blame for this too. I used to be one of those guys who was "just friends" but always wanted more, I would literally let the girl walk all over me. Eventually it went sour, but it taught me to generally not give any fucks and do my own thing. Not saying you shouldn't care about a girl you like, but always maintain priority number 1: yourself.

    ReplyDelete
  5. Why not tell them in person? If they don't realize how the actions are unwanted then perhaps tell them. Relationships need communication.

    I wouldn't suggest the whole ignoring them theme either. If you want a friend to turn into an enemy then by all means go for it. It just suggests that you're not worth their time by being cowardly/low self esteem to be able to talk with them about it in a mature manner. But it's your life do whatever the hell you want.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. truth right here

      Delete
    2. this is truly the best answer here, thank you for saying this 7

      Delete
    3. Addressing the problem straight-up seems like a great solution, but I still unfortunately resort to the "cold bitch approach" out of fear of humiliation. In many cases (in my experience, anyhow) the guy has not explicitly made his intentions known. In the offchance that he actually *was* being friendly in the platonic sense and I misinterpreted, I'd be the conceited jerk who assumes every guy I talk to is in love with me.

      Delete