OMG: Life is going good. My grades are pretty good, I'm employed, I have a good circle of friends, but for some reason i just don't feel truly happy. Loneliness sucks man.
I feel the same way. I have no reason to be lonely or unhappy and yet I am. However, I started seeing a UW counsellor and it helps me to have somebody to talk to who I'm held accountable to. Maybe give it a try? It may or may not be good for you.
But know that you are not the only person who feels this way in university.
Think about it, it might be something outside of what you mentioned. Could be something that you've been carrying forward from the past. Take some alone time and think about it.
Humans all need some combination of these 6 things: 1. Certainty: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure 2. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli 3. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed 4. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something 5. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding 6. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others
Reflect on what you and others have done that made you happiest and what hurt you most and try to identify what needs were being met or not. Realizing which of them was most important to me put my whole life in focus in a new way. I hope this helps you.
I feel the same way. I have no reason to be lonely or unhappy and yet I am. However, I started seeing a UW counsellor and it helps me to have somebody to talk to who I'm held accountable to. Maybe give it a try? It may or may not be good for you.
ReplyDeleteBut know that you are not the only person who feels this way in university.
Thanks, thats some great advice.
DeleteTry having no job, no friends, it's worse.
ReplyDeleteTry looking for God?
ReplyDeletelmao
Deletenice one
DeleteMight take a while
DeleteI hear ya. Things have gotten better over the past few terms though -- so they should be looking up for you too :)
ReplyDeleteJust take it one day at a time.
Try volunteering giving back always feel good!
ReplyDeleteOP here, already do volunteer on occasion. Still not working for me
Deleteyou need to transition to solitude
ReplyDeletethat's when you're at peace with being alone and you enjoy the serenity it gives you
Think about it, it might be something outside of what you mentioned. Could be something that you've been carrying forward from the past. Take some alone time and think about it.
ReplyDeleteHumans all need some combination of these 6 things:
ReplyDelete1. Certainty: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure
2. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli
3. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed
4. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something
5. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding
6. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others
Reflect on what you and others have done that made you happiest and what hurt you most and try to identify what needs were being met or not. Realizing which of them was most important to me put my whole life in focus in a new way. I hope this helps you.
That's a really interesting perspective. Thanks
DeleteJust rub one out like a man and go back to being awesome
ReplyDeletea lot of people feel like this
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