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OMG: Does anyone look back at their first year, in residence perhaps, and feel like it was a depressing time? From meeting so many people yet still feeling alone when you went back to your dorm, all that junk food you ate, and all those people you wanted to talk to but didn't get the chance. #4thyearreflections

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  1. I didn't talk to a lot of people I wanted to and I felt alone when I went back to my room sometimes.

    But I still had an awesome experience in rez and met friends who I'm still close with now. So overall it was a positive experience

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  2. Omg your experience was exactly like mine, I am so glad I'm not the only one to feel this way. I also think the worst part for me was that the vast majority of the friendships were convenience friendships that fell apart as soon as summer hit.

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  3. first year was very depressing for me. Met tons of people, yet still felt so alone.

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  4. First year was a mistake for me. I was in a program that I hated so only met and hung out with people in that program for all of first year because I was in a Living-Learning Community in residence. The summer after first year I evaluated my happiness and what I wanted out of life and realized I was in the wrong program so I switched but the people I had called friends before frowned upon me switching into what they see as an "easy" program.
    So basically now I know no one and have no close friends because I'm bad at meeting people.

    And all this could have been avoided if I didn't choose a program for first year based on what I thought would have the most careers versus what I actually enjoy. *sigh*

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    1. So, you switched from an eng program to an arts program (I'm taking a stab at either psych or sociology), amirite?

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    2. Nope, I switched from physics into biology.

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    3. Biology person here. Made and lost friends I met through Living-Learning in first year. I found that labs helped because it is clear who else was alone and didn't know anyone in the class (they wouldn't have a lab partner sitting beside them). I met a lot of people that way. Strike up a conversation with them during those long waiting periods in an experiment and maybe you'll make a friend :)

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  5. I absolutely agree. Besides my current roommates (met in res), and even that took some getting used to. First year was a rough time for me.

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  6. My first year was pretty awesome: had a group of friends in my program to count on/take courses with, had lots of friends from my college residence. I still see most of my friends from first year, even those who are in upper years/have graduated.

    I think that I found first year to be great because I had my first real independence. Being able to get at least 6 hours of sleep each night or travel places on my own (even just around the city) was huge difference than before. I still went to class and got decent grades, but the independence was a major highlight. FYI I'm a chinese female, and Canadian-born. Going to university outside my hometown meant I was out from under my parents' thumb, which being under wasn't terrible but it felt terribly isolated growing up. I mean there was a rule that I couldn't date until I got my first university degree! Ridiculous rule, also broken since 1st year. (Parents eventually accepted my boyfriend after we were still dating for over a year later. Also, still dating).

    Although the most depressing thing from it was: why on earth did I take Latin 101/102. God I could taken anything else to fulfill the damn language requirements.

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